Read Reflection I here.
There is a lot that one can learn from the younger generation. Though I would like them to be a little less self-centered, what I would like to imbibe is their aloofness, well a little bit at least.
‘Do you really know these many people?’, I asked my niece when her friend list went a little above 1000 on a social network site. (Don’t know the present figures, might even have crossed 2000) ‘Yes, you know’, she said, ‘school friends, college friends, tuition friends, friends met in random places like bus and temple and so on’, she said. ‘I just manage contact with them, a hi there, or like a photo and that’s it’, she said. Now I really like that attitude. Be friends and yet remain detached. Nice… no heartaches, no expectations. People like me get attached and then get hurt fast too.
Children can be your best teachers too. The son came up some months back to me and said, ‘Amma, you taught me
yajna-sistasinah santo mucyante sarva-kilbisaih
bhunjate te tv agham papa ye pacanty atma-karanat’ (B.G. 3.13)
‘Yes’, I said, ‘So?’
‘It means the Lord says The devotees of the Lord are released from all kinds of sins because they eat food which is offered first for sacrifice. Others, who prepare food for personal sense enjoyment, verily eat only sin. Isn’t it?’
‘Yes,’ I said not understanding where the conversation was heading.
‘Then why are you not offering whatever we eat to Krishna before eating’, he said.
I was stumped. Yes, I had taught him that shloka myself. And yet I was not offering food before eating. Practice what you preach, right? Yet even after learning, understanding, I had not been following it. It is so easy to be lazy or wayward and so difficult sometimes to practice what is right.
We may attempt to practice humility, forgiveness and yet when there is an argument with the spouse, forget all. Why is it easier to be humble and forgiving to others and not with our own. Is it because we set very high standards for the ones who are very close to us, but are we/Me upto that standards?
The verses 18-19 from Chapter 12 of the Bhagvad Gita come to mind
samah satrau ca mitre ca tatha manapamanayoh
sitosna-sukha-duhkhesu samah sanga-vivarjitah
tulya-ninda-stutir mauni santusto yena kenacit
aniketah sthira-matir bhaktiman me priyo narah
One who is equal to friends and enemies, who is equipoised in honor and dishonor, heat and cold, happiness and distress, fame and infamy, who is always free from contamination, always silent and satisfied with anything, who doesn’t care for any residence, who is fixed in knowledge and engaged in devotional service, is very dear to Me.
Now the first point equal to friends and enemies is tough. I mean can I really behave equally with friends and the others. Or can I behave normally with people who have hurt me in the past….I really do not know.
Satisfaction and silence is not easy either. Heat and cold… that is tough for me who longs for winter in summer and for summer in winter.
There is still a long way to go, a long path to be better, a long way to understand what is learnt.
And with these thoughts I end 2013 and begin 2014, to a year of new discoveries and new learning’s. Have a blessed year ahead.