Have you experienced friendships suddenly going sour; of mentors suddenly turning their backs? Happens doesn’t it?
The Bhagvad Gita says that there are six enemies of mankind-lust, anger, pride, greed, envy and illusion. And these six are the gates to hell.
Lets leave the other five and concentrate on envy. The most noblest of men have displayed sense of envy. Whether it be holy men, men in power or martyred men, yes all have displayed signs of envy.
Envy just a four letter word and yet so potent. There can be so many reasons for envy as such. Feeling of superiority; feeling of inferiority, lack of confidence in self, insecurity. The present age of consumerism adds more fuel to it. ‘He must be earning well, look at the gadgets he has’, ‘my, my he owns an Aston Martin’, ‘What? second holiday of this year!!’, there are enough reasons for envy. In many ways envy is good too, it propels you to do better. But many times it destroys too.
You may ask how.
Many a times mentors have destroyed their protegés careers just because they feel that their protegé may surpass them. We forget that there is place for everyone in this planet and one need not pull the other down.
There are some off shots too like fault-finding. Sometimes when we become insecure by some other person we tend to find faults. Sometimes not only finding faults but making it a point to convey the same to the other person. If that person is strong enough, he/she may take it all in stride or else his/her confidence goes on a toss. Result both the person and fault finder become unhappy.
So how do we escape from envy? By faith. Faith in oneself and the maker. It is important to keep on reminding oneself that each one is made so for a purpose. If I am creatively deficient, I am good in other things and I should capitalise on that, rather than being envious of those who are good in creativity. Faith in God that HE made me so because he had a purpose for me, helps a lot.
When I look back on myself a few years back I feel ashamed of what a nervous wreck I was. The slightest faults would unnerve me, a negative comment would ruffle me. I have become calmer now. Yes, I am not a good cook, yes, I am not artistic at least not with paint and brush, yes I will never be a world-renowned author but I know I have made a difference in people’s lives and that is important not only for me but also to the world at large.
How did this transformation take place? It was gradual. God was kind enough that I had good association. Good shiksha Gurus (teachers) who nurtured me in what I was good at and most important faith. Faith works wonders. Try it out!!
Whatever you do, whatever you try, just have faith in yourself and the one above and wait for the transformation.